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LJ Idol Week 13: Inside Baseball

Inside Baseball:describes details or minutia of a subject so detailed or requiring such a specific knowledge about what is being discussed that they generally are not well known or appreciated by outsiders.

I may be young, but it has not taken me long to notice the fact that some people are passed over by the general population because they aren't as social as others might like. The person who does not draw attention to him or herself at a party or a social gathering may not be worth getting to know, so they are easy to ignore. People mistake silence or shyness for disinterest. I learned this when I began dating Rob. He is shy by nature, so some of my friends vocalized their concern/confusion about our compatibility. What was someone like him doing with a loudmouth like me?

I suppose it never occurred to these concerned individuals that I had no interest in dating my identical twin, or that we were more alike beneath the surface than people realized. True, I'm loud, dramatic, Cuban/Italian, and naturally tan, while Rob is reserved, passive, and fair-skinned. Yet underneath we share a love for reading, politics, dinners out, movies, and true crime shows. Even deeper than that is our shared love of and commitment to family, our core values, and each other. The past five years have taught me what it means to know the "inside baseball" of a shy person, to understand the inner workings of another human being and speak their unique language.

Some people give it all away in the first five minutes. You can tell exactly who they are and what they are about. There's no mystery, no treasure hunt for understanding and deeper interpersonal knowledge. Rob is the opposite. It takes a little digging, a little patience to understand what he's really about. Yet when you put in the time, you discover his dry yet fabulous sense of humor and his passion for all things baseball. You look into the ocean blue of his eyes as he tells you about historical events as if he was right there, and it's impossible not to want to know more. Perhaps I'm biased because he had me from the very beginning. I was crazy about him from the first date, so naturally I wanted to know everything about him. I spent time scouring the sports section that summer just so I could speak knowledgeably about his favorite team. One might say I was trying too hard, but I say I was just interested. I wanted to know the details he didn't share with everyone else, and the time I spent finding them out was well worth it.

To love someone for exactly the person that they are, for all the minute details, is a gift. When we open ourselves to the opportunity, sometimes we are able to go from being an outsider to an insider and meet the people in this world who are most worth knowing in the process. In my short time on earth, I have learned that much.

This has been my entry for therealljidol. Thanks so much to all who have supported me this far. Please remember to vote for me if you enjoyed this entry.

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basric
Feb. 12th, 2011 07:10 am (UTC)
Beautiful entry. Well done.
awriterswindow
Feb. 12th, 2011 04:51 pm (UTC)
Thank you! :)
x_tikkipost_17
Feb. 12th, 2011 04:33 pm (UTC)
Such a sweet piece! Especially in time for Hearts Day :o) I'm so happy for you and Rob!
awriterswindow
Feb. 12th, 2011 04:52 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much! :) How are you doing?
x_tikkipost_17
Feb. 13th, 2011 08:32 pm (UTC)
I've been doing alright, thanks for asking! Life is busy as usual. I'm in Tampa for school now - it's nice here lol. How are you?
solstice_singer
Feb. 12th, 2011 06:31 pm (UTC)
I think I'm a lot like Rob. I'm pretty reserved in person. I don't talk much, unless I feel really comfortable with a person, and, yes, this has caused me to be looked past in terms of possible friendships.

I like the direction you took with the prompt.
awriterswindow
Feb. 12th, 2011 08:43 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much. It's silly that we tend to look over less outgoing people, even though they are really worth knowing. Thanks for sharing. :)
lawchicky
Feb. 13th, 2011 04:32 am (UTC)
The hubby and I are opposites in a lotnof ways, but we generally agree on the things that matter :)
awriterswindow
Feb. 13th, 2011 07:49 pm (UTC)
That's all that matters! :)
mstrobel
Feb. 13th, 2011 12:15 pm (UTC)
That was gorgeous :)
awriterswindow
Feb. 13th, 2011 07:50 pm (UTC)
Thanks! :)
dreamchaser
Feb. 13th, 2011 06:27 pm (UTC)
I am the same as Rob - shy and reserved (and many people do look the other way :/ It is unfortunate - we all bring *something* to the table)

I agree completely with your last paragraph - it really is a gift to love someone for exactly who they are.
awriterswindow
Feb. 13th, 2011 07:52 pm (UTC)
Everyone does bring something to the table. That's absolutely true. And honestly, a lot of the time the people who don't have as much to say are the ones who actually say something with substance. Thanks so much for reading!
superhappytime
Feb. 13th, 2011 06:44 pm (UTC)
love is difficult
awriterswindow
Feb. 13th, 2011 07:54 pm (UTC)
It can be, but when it's the real thing it's very worth it.
shadowwolf13
Feb. 13th, 2011 10:28 pm (UTC)
This is part of what I love about my Lynn. He's the quiet one, the one that needs a little digging to know more about him. :)

Very well written. :)
wyliekat
Feb. 14th, 2011 06:11 pm (UTC)
I can relate to this model very well - my husband is the quiet type who doesn't give information up freely, and I'm the loud one. I like the fact that I'm an open book (or I feel like I am) almost as much as I like the fact that he isn't.

I like this lots!
phoenixejc
Feb. 14th, 2011 08:53 pm (UTC)
I love learning new things about Luc even after knowing each other for years. :)

Love the icon, btw!
pixiebelle
Feb. 15th, 2011 05:19 am (UTC)
I may be young, but it has not taken me long to notice the fact that some people are passed over by the general population because they aren't as social as others might like. The person who does not draw attention to him or herself at a party or a social gathering may not be worth getting to know, so they are easy to ignore.

Pretty much the story of my life right here. So very true.

The rest of it is very nicely done as well. The part about loving someone for exactly as they are is right on for me too.

I really liked this piece.
cheshire23
Feb. 15th, 2011 05:24 am (UTC)
Icon love! Sounds like Rob would have a bit in common with Carl, yes?
locknkey
Feb. 15th, 2011 05:29 pm (UTC)
Lovely!
joeymichaels
Feb. 15th, 2011 09:48 pm (UTC)
I like that you focused this on the kind of personal language we develop as couples. Nice choice!
hellboy
Feb. 15th, 2011 11:36 pm (UTC)
This made me smile-- truly getting to know someone and looking beyond the initial facade is so important, and most don't bother. It's lovely that you have a relationship that deep and solid ♥
vaguelyclear
Feb. 15th, 2011 11:56 pm (UTC)
Really great entry! I especially loved, and 100% agree with, this part: Some people give it all away in the first five minutes. You can tell exactly who they are and what they are about. There's no mystery, no treasure hunt for understanding and deeper interpersonal knowledge.
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